I seem to have cured the issue and its well to say how I did it. Too often on forums questions are posed but no answers ever given. (or just a plethora of nonsense)
Took the head off and really no issues her at all. Looked at the head-steady in detail. This is a really crude it of bent thick sheet and its angle did not meet the head sweetly so it was pulling on the 2 rear head bolts. The picture clearly illustrates then "pull"
This meant that on torqueing down the head I was fighting against the head-steady and thus the head rear bolts would not be properly seating the head.
I took a big hammer to the head-steady eventually bending it back a bit in the vice so the angle was right and it sat square. I also needed to open up the holes where it attaches to the frame as that was not lining up either. It was almost like the engine was in a slightly different position at the head.
Torqued it up to 25 before attaching the head-steady to the frame and it still marginally leaked! Gave it a bit more to 28 ft lbs and it sealed
I hope this may help somebody in the future